Tag Archive | Grief Loss and Bereavement

Honesty From a 10-Year-Old

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A couple of months ago a little girl was murdered on our area. It was an absolute tragedy. The community has come together to create a very positive light for her memory to survive.

This morning I was telling my youngest Son that it is Madyson Middleton’s Birthday and her Mother has put a celebration together for her today. A gathering that is open to all to attend at Harvey West Park. Bounce House, Art, Face Painting, snacks.  I asked him if he would like to attend?

He looked at me and said… “Mom, I don’t think I want to go, I think that I would just be sad the whole time. I understand that this is to celebrate her birthday, but why would her mother and family want to keep being reminded that she is gone? That would make me just feel worse.”

I told him that this is a way for some people to cope with their loss in a positive way. They celebrate, remember, do some of their favorite things and remember the happy times. He still didn’t agree. His face looked scrunched and deep in though. He just said, “I just don’t think that they should be having a party. I can’t go. It will make me sad.”

I sighed and hugged him tight. I have to say that I agree with my very thoughtful little man. I appreciate his honesty and his sincerity. Even though I understand why the gathering is being held, I don’t think that I would be able to hold such an event if it were me. It’s not me though, and I respect others and their feelings.

My family didn’t know the little girl who was murdered. We do know good friends of hers though. I know they are having a very tough day. I know that every day is tough. That is what death brings to us. Sadness, anger, confusion and so much more. It can be debilitating.  I know, I’ve felt loss.

Tell those close to you that you love them. Right this very minute. Support those that need it the most. Right this very minute. Hug everyone that you can. Every day. There is never a wrong positive gesture. Do it now. Don’t wait. 🙂

xo

Brilliant!

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This really stuck with me today. It can’t express how I feel any better.  It also reminds me of what I need to do in my life. What I think about constantly, but don’t follow through with. That I need to just speak and not walk on eggshells. That I need to do more for myself and what makes me feel good.  

I want to thank, Rachael, a friend on Facebook. One of the very few friends that I have on Facebook, that I have never actually met in person. I adore your drive for life. For peace. For health. For education.  ♥

xo

Someone Like You

Oh it’s so true, as I sit here listening to this song… Life is bittersweet. No regrets I say. Life is spectacular & I am thankful. I have loved & lost… Lost a lot… Lived more than most… Loved more than most… I never forget & love my life as a whole each & every day. I love to the extreme & feel loss just as hard. It’s life right? Well, it’s my life & I plan on keep living it to the fullest with my love, woo hoo’s, many hugs, peace & forgetful nights. I want every second to have meaning. I want everyone to feel love & admiration. As I have always said… Life on the edge, don’t fall off.   🙂

I heard that your settled down.
That you found a girl and your married now.
I heard that your dreams came true.
Guess she gave you things I didn’t give to you.
Old friend why are you so shy?
It ain’t like you to hold back or hide from the light.
I hate to turn up out of the blue uninvited.
But I couldn’t stay away I couldn’t fight it.
I’d hoped you’d see my face,
And that you’d be reminded that for me it isn’t over.
Nevermind I’ll find someone like you.
I wish nothing but the best for you too.
Don’t forget me I beg
I remember you said:-
“Sometimes it lasts in love,
but sometimes it hurts instead”
Sometimes it lasts in love,
but sometimes it hurts instead yeah.
You’d know how the time flies.
Only yesterday was the time of our lives.
We were born and raised in a summery haze.
Bound by the surprise of our glory days.
I hate to turn up out of the blue uninvited
But I couldn’t stay away I couldn’t fight it.
I’d hoped you’d see my face & that you’d be reminded
That for me it isn’t over yet.
Nevermind I’ll find someone like you.
I wish nothing but the best for you too.
Don’t forget me I beg
I remember you said:-
“Sometimes it lasts in love,
but sometimes it hurts instead”
Nothing compares
no worries or cares.
Regret’s and mistakes they’re memories made.
Who would have known how bittersweet this would taste?
Nevermind I’ll find someone like you.
I wish nothing but the best for you too.
Don’t forget me I beg,
I remembered you said:-
“Sometimes it lasts in love,
but sometimes it hurts instead”
Nevermind I’ll find someone like you.
I wish nothing but the best for you too.
Don’t forget me I beg,
I remembered you said:-
“Sometimes it lasts in love,
but sometimes it hurts instead”
Sometimes it lasts in love,
but sometimes it hurts instead.
~Adele
Xo

Continuous Thoughts

I have been think a lot over the past few months about writing about the day I found my Mother dead.  I’m not sure why, but something inside me wants too.  I think that this would be a great opportunity to document what I experienced.  I don’t think that very many people will be happy with me while reading it, but I don’t care.

It would also be an accurate description of that day, which I think will be important in the future.  Most people know of their loved ones who die, but not exactly what happened.  Or how it affected the one who found them.  Who loved them.  Who miss them.

xo