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Good morning!  This was my comment after watching this video this morning.  You’re going to laugh!

“May 6, 2013… that’s how long I have been saving this video in my email inbox. Today is January 25, 2016! It’s about time right?!?! Yes! So, I watched this 1st wonderful video (while chopping an acorn squash in my kitchen, instead of sitting on my butt. Which is how I started it.) and am thinking… hmmmm… what kind of ritual would I like to have in the morning? Something different than I already have from my amazing life? Ha!! I’ll let you know when I figure that out. Thanks for all you do ladies! Can’t wait for day 2 tomorrow. 🙂 ‪#‎Healthy‬ ‪#‎TheLifeOfAMother‬ ‪#‎JustForMe‬ #TheSelfLoveRevolution”

I’ve been saving them for the right time to focus on “Me”.  Haha, can you believe it!  Focus on me? You would think I would have watched these a very, very long time ago.

The truth is, I try and focus on myself as much as I can.  Yes, I have a super busy life, yes, I like it that way. Husband, Father, 4 Children, Myself… all in one house. Believe it, or not, we have a pretty damn good balance.  This doesn’t mean that I don’t get off kilter from time-to-time, because, believe me I do.  It just means that this wasn’t first on my list.  Does that also mean that, I am not first on my list?  No, I definitely try, I just get sidetracked.

After watching this video, I really feel like I need to stop and figure out a ritual that I would like to have that is different from what I already to. Take today for instance… My Husband kissed me goodbye. I got up, used the restroom, put my contacts on, combed any lasting lice eggs out of my youngest Son’s just-washed-hair, cleaned up, washed my face, flossed my teeth, brushed my teeth, put on my skincare products, brushed my hair, then got dressed. Kissed my 3rd Son goodbye for school, cooked 5 scrambled eggs for the 4th Son, ate a yogurt, powdered the two dogs with flea powder, put them in their kennel, then was off to take my 4th Son to school. There was my morning, thus far.

If I just look at that little part of my morning, I think that it was pretty productive.

I didn’t even mention everything that I did after I got back from that school drop off. Let the dogs out of the kennel, the 3 of us made our way upstairs to my room, chatted with the cable company, chatted with the sales guy, Alec, at the gym my boys want to join, cleaned my room, text with my 4 of my girlfriends and 2 of my Nieces, did Day 1 of a 30 day Squat Challenge, vacuumed my bedroom, watched this 1st video while chopping an acorn squash and putting it away for later, then made myself a yummy #LunchForOne, said good morning to my two oldest that have today off from school, had an intense conversation with my 2nd Son about his behavior towards others and how it makes them feel, then finally sat down to blog.

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Phew! Haha! Yes, a pretty normal day for me.  Now that I read back through all of that, what have I really done for me?  Perfect reason for me to find a new ritual.  Time to get my head together and figure that out ASAP. Maybe on the drive over to pick up my little Cousin from school?  Or, maybe while I’m sitting in the carpool line picking up my youngest Son and 2 others that I drive home on the daily?  Haha!

I’ll figure it out. I love to journal. I love to paint. I am a woman who goes through spurts and doesn’t really stick to the thinks I love, unless it is washing my face and tending to myself that way.  At least I can say that I take care of myself with using amazing skincare products, having clean and nice clothes, a beautiful closet that I love to dress out of, books that I love to read and living in a town that I can never get enough of.  🙂

xoxo

New Year Resolutions

I don’t do New Year Resolutions.  I always tell people I am amazing at helping reach other people’s goals, but my own, not so much.  I’ve always put them out there, have even taken planning skills classes.  Complete with daytime’s, goal setting pages, etc.  No such luck.  I don’t know why, it all just doesn’t seem to happen for me, or maybe it just all doesn’t seem that important.  More important than the big picture.  I am more of a live in the moment type of person.  I think about things I want to do constantly.  For instance… travel more, get my ass to Europe ASAP, lose 50 pounds, clean the house, be a better mother, start cooking more again, get out the door and take that walk, finish emptying these damn boxes, work a my Boys’ schools again, and so much more.  What it all really comes down to, for me, is to just get up and get going.  Some days, not.  Some days I just want to read all day.  Some days I just want to get in my car and drive.  Other days I would just love to get on a plane with my family and go, go, go.  Today I am going to blog.  🙂

xo

P.S. I miss my housekeeper.  Ha!

Pinterest and Me – A New Beginning

 

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I’ve been thinking a lot lately about Pinterest and how much I like it. I’ve decided to add something fun and new to blog about. Using a “pin” on my Pinterest board and actually blogging about it.

A little background about Pinterest and I. Several years ago my friend, Lisa, sent me a message and told me that I should check out her boards on Pinterest and join myself. I looked it up and, knowing how addicted I can become with catalogs and magazines, I decided against it. Then about a year ago my Bestie, Tracey, brought it to my attention again. Oh boy! So, I thought about it. Long and hard. It took me several months, but then I did it. I joined! Oh boy, the madness had begun. LOL!!

I used to keep all kinds of catalogs and magazines around, turn the pages so they stuck out the top, so I could go back and see what it was that I wanted, or to remember that idea. When I was younger I used to even tear out the pages to keep in idea files that would forever get lost and forgotten about. Needless to say, I am a giant out-of-sight-out-of-mind person. If I can’t see it then it will most likely ALWAYS get forgotten about. This is just how my brain works. I am very, very visual in many ways.

I see Pinterest as a huge magazine, catalog and reference site. I just love it!!! I can’t throw it away like I have done with my catalogs and magazines that come in the mail. Yes, I actually have the recycle can right next to me now when I am going through the mail. I just toss it is and don’t have any more huge piles. It is my method to the madness. That is why I came up with this. At least I will be showing how I have been using some of my pins that I have on all my crazy boards.

Please keep a look out for the future posts… “Pinterest and Me”. 🙂

xo

 

Shrink Yo’Self – True Confessions Tuesday

I was asked to talk about the positive things I did this week, but I feel need to talk about what I know I have slacked on and want to own up to it.

First off I have missed blogging on the past 2 True Confessions. Go figure my days getting away from me and the next thing I know it is Wednesday, or Thursday. Who the hell knows what I am doing, but it is obviously something and not blogging like I should be.

Second, I was a bad, bad girl this week. I haven’t been drinking alcohol very much and this week I had a craving for Guinness BAD. This past Wednesday I had 1.  Friday I had 4.  Saturday I went to a birthday dinner and party and didn’t drink beer, but did have plenty of other things.  Sunday I drank 2 Snake Bites. Half Guinness and half Cider.  Last night I had one too.  Today I will have nothing, but water and the same for the rest of the week.  Well, at least I will try as of this moment.  Can you imagine what those calories did to me? I counted most of them, logged them, then by the time Saturday came around I didn’t log for the birthday party. Ug. Yep.  I was up 1.4 at my weigh-in on Sunday. Such an idiot!  My scale and the WW scale are never the same.  This morning my scale said 176.  BAD!!!  I am working hard to get back down by this next Sunday.  I want the 1.4 gone, plus a little more.  It is such a pity how fast it comes back on and how slowly it is to get it off.  Just sucks really!  I wasn’t even really that bad with my eating except for Sunday. Oh well. I own it.  Time to move on!

Starting Weight:  185

Highest Weight:  189

Weight Today:  176.0

Total WW Loss:  9.0

Total Loss Overall: 13.0

To Goal:  41.0

On a good note I have two of my Boys that started Tutoring this past week and it is going fantastic.  They come home with happy faces. Their self-esteem and reading/writing are moving forward. The Wilkins Learning Center in Gilbert has the most amazing people ever!

I finally hired a new housekeeper and she starts tomorrow. With a crew of 5 others!  How fantastic is that!  I haven’t had anyone helping me with the house for over a year. I know this may sound petty, but for me it is a life saver.  I have gone though a pretty hard year and a half personally and just the little things like this make me feel so much better.  I am a bit ashamed about the way my house looks now, others would disagree, but this is a step in the right direction for myself. A clean house makes for a happy Kathleen.

I started yesterday off by going on the treadmill not once, but twice, throughout my day.  I was in a weird bored mood and it really helped.  I can’t wait to get back on it today!

Today I am starting the 100 Push-ups program.  I have tried it before, but never finished. I have a good friend that started a few days ago, so I am going to try to catch up to her. I find that having someone to do something with really, really helps. Wish me luck!  Push-up can be damn hard.  LOL!

Today I am cooking Miso Soup for my Boys.  They love it when I make it for them. Pretty healthy and low points too. I am also going to make a vegetable soup today for the crock pot to have for whenever we want a snack. My oldest especially loves soup.  Soup and salad, how can you go wrong!

I closed down my Mom’s Making Time for Mom’s MeetUp group this past Sunday. It was time.  I have had it going since, well, I can’t remember… either February 2008, or 2009.  I just feel like it was the right time and the right thing to do.  I am going to look into maybe joining some other groups on my own and take it from there.  Life is an adventure right?!

I am going to be doing the Color Run here in Tempe this weekend with my family and a friend.  I can’t wait!  It just looks so fun and exciting for us all and such a great cause!

I also signed my Husband and I up for the Skirt Chaser 5k. Looks like a blast as well. I joined with a few friends and also found out at the birthday dinner I was at the other night that a bunch of those girls will be there too. Woo hoo!  Something fun and healthy to look forward too.  🙂

xo

 

A Sad Realization

Cover of "The Help"

Cover of The Help

When I first moved to Louisiana in September 2002 my Husband was worried about me getting myself into trouble.  I grew up in the Bay Area in California and have personally been a very open-minded and liberal person my whole life.  I like everybody for who they are.  He was worried about me moving to a smaller town where bigotry was still among us.

I was drawn to a beautiful home in the Historical Garden District of Alexandria.  I went back to see the house 5 or 6 times.  I just really liked it for some reason.  Every time I went there I got a really good vibe. While I set up each visit my Real Estate Agent from Caldwell Banker, Leona Swanson, we would get to chatting.  One day she brought up to me that maybe I shouldn’t be looking over in that area.  Maybe I should be looking over in the Charles Park area, or some neighborhood of that sort.  I asked her why, I love this beautiful neighborhood?  She went on to tell me that there are surrounding neighborhoods that aren’t of our kind.  She was speaking of the black neighbors surrounding that area.  I immediately told her that I didn’t care one way, or another what kind of neighbors I had, just as long as I loved the house and the street it was on.  Needlesstosay, we bought that house.

We lived there for two years.  The neighbors were amazing and still friends to this day, even after leaving Louisiana.  One of my favorite sites to see were the old couple that would ride down the street.  The older man riding the bike and the elderly woman on the handlebars.  It was the cutest thing that I ever saw.  I just wish I had a picture of them.  As happy as can be.

I started reading a new book on Saturday night, The Help by Kathryn Stockett.  As I was reading today it hit me.  My Husband and I were remembering our old house in Alexandria and he mentioned the bathroom out in the car port.  I never even thought of it, until today. I now know why that bathroom was out there.  It was for the “Help”. Wow!  It really kind of slapped me in the face. My heart was pounding and I felt rather upset.  I know that racism was alive and well years ago and segregation was there, but I just realized that it was happening there, at the house that I had lived in.  That didn’t make me feel good.

The house had all the tell-tale signs too… separate entrance to the kitchen, back stairs from the kitchen, the laundry off the kitchen, swinging doors to the diningroom.  Things like that.  I was aware that the house was built for maids-n-such, just not that they actually had to use the bathroom outside.  This book, The Help, helped me to understand it all if a very different way.  A new realization.  One that I didn’t like.

Don’t get me wrong, I am enjoying this book immensely, mostly from the point of view.  It is just a new perspective for me.  I would have been the person that was always getting in trouble, because I would have talked to everyone, even the blacks, had them over for dinner and invited them to gatherings.  I would have been the one to get a cross burned on my front lawn probably. No one would have probably wanted to work for me.  I don’t know why not, they would have loved me.

I need to find a picture of this beautiful home that I lived in Alexandria, Louisiana.  When I do I will post it.  🙂

xo

 

WordPress A Post A Day/Week #14 ~ If you had a time machine that only let you spend one hour in a different time, what date would you go to?

If you had a time machine that only let you spend one hour in a different time, what date would you go to?

This is easy for me… I would go to the evening of May 29, 2010.  That was the night that I got in the car to pick up my Husband from the airport.  I wrecked his car that night.  I can’t remember exactly what happened, it happened so fast.  So much hurt came out of that one hour.  So much anger… anger at myself… anger at the two men that slammed on their brakes in front of me… anger, anger, anger.  I would go back and change it… change it big time!  I have been struggling with that night everyday since.  It is hard to let it go.  I try to stop letting it haunt me, but it hasn’t.  It is strong… a lesson to be learned the hard way.  The very hard way.  I am a survivor though and I am stronger… I have learned, I will conquer and I will put it behind me.  I know I can.  I need to.  🙂

xo

Where have all the great Housekeepers gone?

I have had at least a dozen, maybe more, housekeepers in the last 10 years.  I have been stole from, lied to, quit on, had things broken and so much more.  Why isn’t there anyone out there that has pride in what they do any more?

I have a busy household with 7 people.  I could really use the help.  My current housekeeper didn’t show-up yesterday.  Granted we really needed her here since I just had surgery on Saturday and I am stuck not doing much of anything.  She did show up today, but things are starting to pile-up and the dust is starting to get out of hand.  You would think that someone being here 4 days a week and 3 hours each of those days would be able to get a lot done.  I was thinking about it today… where have all the great housekeepers gone?  Well, I need one.  🙂